196: The Control Paradox - Why More Food Rules Make You Feel More Out Of Control
Hello everyone and welcome back to Thrive Beyond Size. This episode was partly inspired by my husband returning to school and watching how meticulous he is about his assignments. The effort he puts into things is admirable but not sustainable and I realized that striving for perfection is about the illusion of control. It correlates to healing relationships with food in a very real way. If you’ve spent years trying to control food, just holding onto the reins of your relationship with food so tightly, you probably believe that you have control and are safe, right? But something I call the control paradox comes into play which is that the tighter we clamp down, the less control we actually have. The more we restrict, the more chaotic and compulsive things become. So today I dive into the control paradox: what it means, how it works, and how to break free.
Hello everyone and welcome back to Thrive Beyond Size. This episode was partly inspired by my husband returning to school and watching how meticulous he is about his assignments. The effort he puts into things is admirable but not sustainable and I realized that striving for perfection is about the illusion of control. It correlates to healing relationships with food in a very real way. If you’ve spent years trying to control food, just holding onto the reins of your relationship with food so tightly, you probably believe that you have control and are safe, right? But something I call the control paradox comes into play which is that the tighter we clamp down, the less control we actually have. The more we restrict, the more chaotic and compulsive things become. So today I dive into the control paradox: what it means, how it works, and how to break free.
I explore three very important questions: 1) Why do we believe that control equals safety in the first place? 2) How do restriction and rigid food rules backfire on us, making food feel even more chaotic? 3) How can we step out of this control paradox and into a place of more trust and freedom with food? A lot of our food rules are shaped from a very young age and when we also factor diet culture into the mix, we take in the primary message that our bodies can’t be trusted and control is the answer. Control makes us feel like we might be safe. But as soon as we slip up, we spiral into chaos and feel very unsafe. So the answer actually lies in trust. Learning to trust our bodies again. And that’s what I explore: why trust is so scary but vital to intuitive eating and breaking out of the control paradox.
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About Dr. Michelle Tubman:
Dr. Michelle Tubman is certified by the American Board of Obesity Medicine, which means she understands exactly what's happening in your body when you diet. Although she does not provide any medical advice in her coaching programs, this knowledge gives her an edge over most coaches.
She also holds Level 1 and Level 2 Precision Nutrition coaching certifications which make her skilled at coaching nutrition, dietary change, and habit change in general. Realizing that emotional eating and bingeing are complicated for most of us, she also did training in mind-body and intuitive eating. Peace around food is possible.
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